Bibliotherapy

Best Bedtime Picture Books to Read Repeatedly

The beauty of reading to children and grandchildren is that you can revisit favorites from your past and discover new favorites. 

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Best Bedtime Picture Books to Read at Naptime

For many reasons, bedtime might not be the best time for read alouds. Maybe the responsible adults are too tired or they’re working at bedtime or the family schedule is too insane in the evenings. Whatever the reason, reading at nap time (or afternoon quiet time) could be the best alternative. 

The Napping House by Don Wood

Pancakes, Pancakes by Eric Carle

Eric Carle uses his unique artistic style to tell the story of a boy who wants a pancake for breakfast.

First he must track down each ingredient from threshed wheat to milk from the cow. 

The simple progression from field to table is fascinating and as oddly satisfying as a pancake with strawberry jam on top. 

Harold and the Purple Crayon by Crockett Johnson

Harold and his purple crayon is a timeless story.

Wielding his crayon, Harold creates the world around him, adventuring and solving problems as he goes. 

Harold’s world represents the possibilities of imagination. 

To me, it also speaks of the idea that we can create our own lives. That we posses within ourselves the ability create the environment around us, to choose the ending to our story. 

Click, Clack, Moo, Cows that Type by Doreen Cronin

Farmer Brown has a problem. 

His cows aren’t happy and they express their displeasure via typed messages. 

The improbability of the situation makes it endearing. 

A simple, amusing story sure to please ages three and up. 

Best Bedtime Picture Books to Read on Audio

Sometimes the best option for bedtime reading is an audio book.  This could be an audio book that kids listen to alone or with adults—maybe coming home in the car from evening events. Don’t forget that audiobooks can be checked out from the library. You don’t have to own them.                                                             

A Bear Called Paddington by Michael Bond

Good ole Paddington has been charming kids for a long time.

Zoey and Sassafras

The Complete Tales of Beatrix Potter

The Tale of Peter Rabbit by Beatrix Potter

For more than a century, Beatrix Potter books have delighted children.

They are just as delightful today as they were a century ago.

Peter Rabbit lives with his mother and siblings, Flopsy, Mopsy and Cotton tail.

Unlike his siblings, he is not obedient. Maybe that’s what makes him so endearing. 

Best Bedtime Picture Books in Series                                                                    

Novelty and familiarity form a delicate balance when it comes to reading to kids. If the adults in the room are tired of reading books repeatedly, books that are part of a series might meet the need for a new storyline while holding on to predictable characters and structures. Put the library to work for a stack of books that you don’t have to own.

The Little Blue Truck by Alice Schertle

I love The Little Blue Truck for it’s message about friendship and community. The truth is, we need each other. There comes a point in everyone’s life when you need help. At that point, you need someone you can call. You also need to be willing to help other people. Everyone needs their network, their community of support. 

Other books in the series explore other themes.

Llama Llama Books by Anna Dewdney

The Llama Llama books have a good rhyme, tell a simple story and have beautiful illustrations.

Llama Llama, Gram and Grandpa is when Little Llama spends the night at his grandparents’ house but forgets his fuzzy Llama.

Froggy Books by Jonathan London

There’s many books in the Froggy series with themes that explore family, friendship, everyday activities and emotions.

Mercy Watson to the Rescue by Kate DiCamillo

Mercy Watson is a pig who lives with Mr. and Mrs. Watson and is tucked into bed every night with lullabies. She’s in love with toast with a great deal of butter. My grand daughter and I are in love with her. 

In the house next to them on Deckawoo Drive lives their opinionated neighbor, Eugenia Lincoln, thinks pigs belong on farms, not in houses. 

Quirky characters and simple plot lines make this six book series a delight for all ages. 

My favorite quote comes from the first book. “What would we do without Mercy?” Indeed. 

Best Bedtime Picture Books for Dads and Grandpas to Read                    

I have a unproven, sneaky suspicion that most picture books are written for women to read to kids. Adults are the forgotten target audience of picture books. The secret to reading to kids is the Venn Diagram. Only read books that fall in the overlap of the circles of books they love and books you love. Here’s a list for guys to love. 

George and Martha by James Marshall

George and Martha books follows the ups and downs of two best friends. Engaging stories that illustrate the elements of friendship.

Hello Ninja by N. D. Wilson

Perfect for kids just graduating from board books, Hello Ninja has sparse text and captivating artwork.

The Very Cranky Bear by Nick Bland

Every tired parent can relate to the cranky bear who just wants to get some sleep. Kindness and friendship win the day.

Frog and Toad by Arnold Lobel

More than just friendship, Frog and Toad stories introduce character qualities and interaction with our world.

Bluey Books

My grandkids’ love for the Bluey series on Disney got me hooked. The Mum, Dad and two puppies are funny, relatable and positive role models.

Best Bedtime Picture Books for Moms and Grandmas to Read   

Although there’s certainly books that men and women like to read to kids, some will be more appealing to Moms and Grandmas.   

The joy of reading to children depends so much on mutual enjoyment of the child and the adult. So, the best books have to be rereadable, the ones that can be read hundreds of times and still capture the imagination of both the child and the adult. 

Switch out the books as often as you need to in order to keep both audiences happy. 

Lola Dutch by Sarah and Kenneth Wright

Lola Dutch is a girl with many passions and interests. 

She flits from one to another with energy and excitement. The world is her oyster. 

Bear, Pig, Crane and Gator are her partners in crime, as well as caretakers. I love her enthusiasm for life and her many and varied passions. 

I’m just waiting for someone to make a Lola Dutch plush toy I can give to my grand daughter. 

Corduroy by Don Freeman

I think that the heart of this book, the reason it’s touched so many people for so long is it articulates one of our greatest human needs, the need for belonging. God sets the solitary in families. We need to belong to someone. We all need to be part of a family. We need to be connected to other humans. We have to be able to describe that relationship. Spouse. Friend. Parent. Child. Aunt. Grandma. 

When we see Corduroy’s longing for home and family and Lisa’s desire to take him home, to accept him and make him part of her family, it’s heart-warming. We can identify with that deep longing and feel so satisfied when it’s met. 

Bread and Jam for Frances by Russell and Lillian Hoban

I like the Frances books. Russell and Lillian Hoban are able to describe what matters to kids in an engaging way. Frances is a badger who has all the problems and joys of little humans. 

Bread and Jam for Frances tells the story of when Frances refuses to expand her palate, and sticks to only one food—bread and jam. 

The funny little songs and poems she makes up are catchy and engaging. 

Fancy Nancy by Jane O’Connor

Fancy Nancy books and the animated series featured on Disney feature a girl in love with glamour. Great for expanding English (and French) vocabulary and compelling characters with real life problems.

Olivia by Ian Falconer

Olivia is a whimsical pig who loves ballet, the opera and getting into trouble.

If you want more tips and book recommendations for older kids, read Best Family Read Alouds and Where to Start

Looking for digital resources? 23 Best Free Online Books for Kids

How to Use Algorithms to Personalize Your Book Recommendations

Algorithms can work against us when someone is pulling the strings behind the curtain. I think our reading lives— or better said, the use of our time— is too important to leave to algorithms. 

One way to fight this is to be intentional about the use of our time, do the research and only read what is beneficial. 

Another option is to make the algorithms work for you. 

My top pick for a resource to use algorithms to find personalized book recommendations is The StoryGraph and the most important factor is to tailor your input to get the best results.  

Besides The StoryGraph, I’ve listed what I like and don’t like about websites that use algorithms to recommend books.

According to Bookriot, “if you’re someone who is only interested in keeping up with the newest bestsellers, Goodreads is great. However, if you’re more interested in finding specific books that you know you’ll love, Storygraph is by far the better option.”

I agree.

What I Like about The StoryGraph

Content warnings.

This is huge for me. They are reader submitted, with three levels–graphic, moderate and minor. There’s also a place for author submitted content warnings. 

The different moods of a book are rated– such as reflective, sad, emotional or inspiring. This is wonderful info to have about a book.

It’s nice to know about the pace of a book, whether it’s slow moving or fast moving.

Information about character and plot. Are the characters likable? flawed? Was the ending sad?

It has short ratings and full reviews.

It’s not associated with Amazon or Goodreads.

You can transfer Goodreads data over to your StoryGraph account.

Possibilities for good recommendations is higher, in my opinion, especially for fiction. When you’re reading to escape or relax, different factors are important than when you’re reading to learn.

What I Don’t Like about The StoryGraph

It has a 5 star rating system, although half stars and even quarters stars are an option. 

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What I Like about Readgeek

It has 10 point rating system with half point options. It’s quick to rate, with an easy slide scale.

Lovers also liked list for each book. 

Personal predicted rating is interesting. 

What I don’t Like about Readgeek

Most of their recommendations don’t feel like a good fit for me. Maybe I don’t have enough data in with 73 books rated or maybe I wasn’t strategic enough about the books I chose. 

Readgeek has a beta after the name, which could mean that bugs and glitches are still being worked out.

What I Like about Goodreads

Readers also enjoyed feature for each book.

More readers are on Goodreads

What I Don’t Like about Goodreads

5 star rating system with no half stars.

It’s owned by Amazon, which has it’s pros and cons

What I Like about Literature Map

It’s so cool!

Put in a favorite authors’ name and then watch the other names circle around. It’s just plain fun to watch. 🙂

Finding a new favorite author can be more valuable than finding a new favorite book. 

What I Like about Amazon

It’s people also bought feature.

Amazon Best Seller Ranking, so you can see how well the book is selling.

Author Bios.

Reader reviews, specifically how high the books are rated and what people have to say about them. 

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The bottom line is that the more precise information you feed your algorithm, the better it will work for you. Mixing more than one person’s preference will mess with the results.

Another good strategy for finding books you love is nailing down your favorite book genre. Read my step by step here.

How to Have the Best Summer Ever

Have you ever found yourself at the end of summer with regrets? The projects you wanted to do unfinished or wrapping up vacation just as tired as when you left? What can you do at the front end to insure you have the best summer ever? 

1. Acknowledge Your  Season

Parents of young children are going to have different summers than empty nesters. Caring for family members with a serious health issue changes everything. You could be in a healing season or  a grieving season or maybe growing, recovering or surviving.  Extend grace to yourself if you’re currently in a season that is less productive.

2. Define Your Roles  

Steven Covey, in his classic Seven Habits of Highly Effective People recommends organizing your life based on your roles. For example, employee, parent, daughter, spouse, self. Each role then has it’s goals and priorities. 

3. Make your Summer Smaller

Break your summer up into sections. This is advice from Kendra Adachi author of The Lazy Genius Way. Don’t look at the summer as a whole, but in pieces. Like from now till the wedding. From the wedding till vacation. From vacation till school starts again. 

Each section can be treated as a separate unit. 

4. Decide What Matters for Each Section

More advice from Kendra Adachi.

You get to decide what matters for you. 

Start with what could matter. Make a list of everything. 

From that list you decide what does matter.

Pray for wisdom. This is my added step, but one that I’ve come to believe in. God promises to give us wisdom when we ask. Believe that He has given it and make your best decisions. 

Finally, choose what matters most

When you focus on what matters most you deliberately choose what will be neglected. 

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5. Include Rest and Refreshment in One Section of the Summer

Maybe that will be on vacation or maybe it won’t. Maybe the highest priority on vacation should be quality time as a couple. Or reconnecting with extended family. Or teaching the kids to camp. Or investing in friendships. 

Maybe your season in the summer for rest and refreshment will be the section after vacation. Or even after summer is over. Maybe your work is seasonal and summer is your busiest season, meaning the money you make in the summer finances a January vacation. 

6. Incorporate Reading to Learn, Escape, Reduce Stress or Connect

You knew I was going to say it, didn’t you? I believe in summer reading for a multitude of reasons. 

Yes, it’s great to sit by the pool and read. It’s great to pop in an audio book for road trips. Or read books as a deep dive in a new area of interest. Sometimes summer opens up pockets of time that aren’t available any other time of year. Lean into it!

7. Assign Resources to Priorities

After you’ve named what matters, schedule your time, money and other resources (like employees, kids or volunteers) to your priorities. Budget your time the way you budget your money, making the biggest allocations to the highest priorities. 

8. Execute the Plan

Now it’s time to pull it off. Don’t be afraid to pivot if things go awry. Naming what matters helps you follow the compass. When you veer off course, you can regroup, adjust and head back again in the right direction. 

One of the biggest problems for me is learning to flex not to hold too tightly to plans and adjust to things that come up. Counterintuitively, the better I plan, the easier I find it is to pivot.

If part of your summer strategy includes vacation reading, find out How to Build a Vacation Book Stack.

3 Steps to Teach Empathy to Kids with Books

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When you teach empathy to kids, you solve a host of other problems.

Have you ever wondered how to get kids to share? How to get them to be kind to one another? How to stop bullying? The missing character trait here is empathy. So the next question is how to help kids develop empathy and what do books have to do with it?

  1. Teach empathy by choosing the right books
  2. Teach empathy by asking questions
  3. Teach empathy by stepping into the characters’ shoes

Teach Empathy to Kids by Choosing the Right Books

I wrote an article with a book list about How Stories Develop Empathy in Kids.

In that post I talk about how stories we tell kids today have changed from when I was a child. I’m not saying all change is bad, but I wonder if we’re robbing kids today of the chance to develop real compassion and empathy because our stories are tamed down.

Among stories written in this century, I recommend the books of R. J. Palacio about Auggie who has a facial deformity. These books are characterized by realistic struggles with emotional pain.

Wonder is written for school aged kids and We’re All Wonders for preschoolers.

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Teach Empathy to Kids by Asking Questions

Michele Borba wrote the book Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. In it, she outlines three steps to interact with stories to teach kids empathy. 

Step 1: Ask “What if.” 

Stop reading occasionally to pose questions. What if that happened to you? What if you had to decide?    

Give kids a chance to stop and think about what it’s like to be that character.                                   

Step 2: Ask “How would you feel?” 

An important task here is teaching emotional literacy. Help kids learn a vocabulary for emotions. 

Start with basics like happy and sad, and move on to more complex emotions like frustrated, angry, excited and afraid. 

When reading picture books, point out body language and facial expressions. 

Identify what the character is feeling and relate that to feelings they’ve had. 

Step 3: Ask them to think about “you” instead of “me.”

A critical step in teaching empathy is the shift in focus from self-centered to other-centered. 

It’s natural to think about ourselves, our thoughts, needs and feelings. It takes effort (maybe even supernatural help!) to think about others. 

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Teach Empathy to Kids by Stepping into the Characters’ Shoes

Kids are concrete and literal learners. It helps to have a visual and tactile object lesson to drive home a lesson. 

In Michele Borba’s book she shares the example of a mom in Liverpool who helped her kids step into the shoes—literally— of the characters from Charlotte’s Web

She wrote the names of the characters— Wilbur, Charlotte, Fern and Templeton— on sticky notes and put them on her husband’s shoes. The kids loved standing in each shoe and describing what that character was thinking and feeling. 

Looking for great lists of chapter books for kids? Browse these lists– Books Like Hatchet and Books Like The Penderwicks.

How to Create Your # 1 Favorite Book Genre: Introducing Commendable Lit!

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Finding a great book is hard. Finding your favorite book genre is harder. One problem is that books don’t have content ratings like movies. You want to avoid a bad reading experience, but you don’t want spoilers about the plot. Not only do you want one great book but a favorite book genre full of them.

This is my struggle. This is the problem that drives so many of my blog posts. We don’t like to waste our time, don’t want a bad reading experience and we’d like to have every book be a five star winner. 

That’s not realistic. But, we can improve our odds by identifying exactly what we’re looking for and naming it.  

How do you create your favorite book subgenre? 

  1. Identify your favorite genres
  2. Pinpoint the top characteristics you want
  3. Find the descriptive words to name your subgenre
  4. Set up a group or list for your subgenre
  5. Let people know about it 

What good does it do to create a subgenre? You can build community around it. You can connect to other people. There’s probably other people out there looking for your subgenre. You can categorize books without giving spoilers. That’s a plus.

I created my own favorite subgenre. 

Introducing for the first time (drum roll please)

Commendable Lit!

I’ll show you step by step how to do it yourself and tell you about mine.

Identify your favorite genres

Stop and think about your best reading experiences. Which books made you want to start over again at the beginning? Which books stay with you as move through your week? Which books transported you from your daily life to another reality? 

Which reading experiences do you want to repeat or recreate? 

Of those books, which genre do they fall into? 

If you’re having trouble read How to Find Your Favorite Book Genre. 

Pinpoint the top characteristics you want

Here’s the problem:  You don’t like all the books in your favorite genre. So, what is it that makes them winners or losers? 

What part of the genre would you want to throw away? Which would you like to keep? 

Which authors do you love? Why?

An ongoing problem that has driven a lot of my blog posts is the problem of finding well-written books that don’t glorify, celebrate or normalize immorality. 

I wrote Why Don’t Books Have Ratings Like Movies? to explore this topic. In doing research for that question, I learned some interesting things. 

One thing is the small probability that books will ever have a universal content rating system. 

Next I wrote How to Find Good Clean Books

Then I wrote a series of lists of clean books:

24 Exceptional Clean Fiction Books for Adults

Clean Romance Novels for Adults

and Clean Beach Reads

Identifying those characteristics is critical.

Find the descriptive words to name your subgenre

Finding accurate words to describe your new subgenre is key to communicating the distinctives of your subgenre. 

I love word hippo as a resource for finding just the right word. 

I spent some time there trying to pin down words that really describe the books I love. 

When I stumbled across commendable I knew I hit the jack pot, because two uses of the word fit perfectly. 

“Having or showing high moral standards”  and “worthy of being recommended”. 

Those are the kind of books I love to read. 

I chose Lit because it doesn’t sound as high brow as literature, but still conveys the idea of works of fiction. 

Voilà!

A new subgenre is born: Commendable Lit

Set up a group or list for your subgenre

Next I created a list on Goodreads and added forty some titles that I feel epitomizes this subgenre. 

There are multiple ways to do this, such as a facebook group. Even a paid membership could be an option if you gain a following. 

Let people know about it 

The final step is to get the word out. 

The internet and social media has many avenues to make this easy. Like minded readers will be on some platform that you can find and connect with them. 

You know your favorite places to connect on the web. Take advantage of those or explore new platforms. 

How Do Stories Develop Empathy in Kids?

Helping kids develop empathy for others might be as simple as reading them stories.

I remember reading a story to my five year old son. It was about a little girl who gave away her favorite doll at Christmas time to a needy child. He was so moved by this act that he cried. 

Seeing his tender heart touched me. I witnessed up close the power of story to teach empathy.

Empathy is about understanding the pain that someone else is feeling and joining them in their sorrow. It often leads to some action to help relieve the pain. 

The amazing thing is that we can have real emotions triggered by fictional people. We can be moved to compassion and sympathy by hearing the plight of a fictional character. 

Being able to crawl into the skin of another human is a critical life skill. Doing it with other people might be hard. Starting with a fictional character is easier. 

The fact is, when we get lost in a story, we start to feel the characters emotions. We put our selves in their place. How would we feel if we were there in that situation? What would we be thinking? What would we do?

Research shows that parts of our brains are affected when we identify with fictional characters.

The pity and compassion we develop for a fictional character is real even if the character isn’t. It’s practice for having compassion for the real people in our lives. It helps us to reach out in love and sympathy and show others that we “weep with those who weep” and “rejoice with those who rejoice”.

Who can we feel empathy for? The list starts with the financially disadvantaged, physically disabled, racially different, culturally different and socially handicapped.

Some books teach these principles better than others.

Best Books for Teaching Empathy to Kids

In C.S. Lewis’ The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, Eustace Scrubb has a lot of problems. Chief among them is that he doesn’t read the right sort of books.

It’s an easy problem to fall into. But with a little forethought and research, we can surround ourselves and our kids with the right sort of books.

What are the right sort of books? 

Literary fiction, to start with. 

Julianne Chiaet writes in Scientific American about a study that compared the effects of reading non-fiction, popular fiction, literary fiction or no reading at all. 

After reading, “the participants took a test that measured their ability to infer and understand other people’s thoughts and emotions.” 

Those in the literary fiction group scored higher than the other three.

According to the article, literary fiction “focuses more on the psychology of characters and their relationships.”

Popular fiction tends to focus more on exciting plots and less on characters’ personal growth dealing with thoughts and feelings. 

Besides the genre of literary fiction, certain themes are important as well as characters who are suffering or underprivileged in some way.

I previewed a stack of books that I found referenced on the internet as good resources to teach empathy. For the most part, I was underwhelmed.

A few stood out and I included them in my top picks.  

The search reminded me about stories I heard as a child such as The Little Match Girl

It’s written by Hans Christian Andersen, the same author who wrote The Ugly Duckling and The Emperor’s New Clothes. 

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On a cold and snowy New Year’s Eve, a poor peddler girl is unable to sell any of her matches. She can’t return home because unsold inventory will result in a beating from her father. She has lost her shoes and her feet are red and blue with cold. 

She huddles in a corner and strikes a match against the wall. She warms her hands in it’s glow and imagines roast goose and Christmas trees. 

She strikes a bundle of matches and imagines her grandmother in heaven beckoning her to come. 

Her body is found in the morning as the angels have carried her spirit away. 

I admit it. It was heart breaking then. It’s heart breaking now. Are we afraid of broken hearts? Do we think that children can not handle the harsh realities of life?

Amazingly, this is a hopeful story. It paints the picture of heaven, of a better life to come. 

But it is tragic as well, certainly. A little girl so cold that she froze to death, no celebration, no feast, no warmth, no mercy and kindness. 

The vivid portrayal of the poor little match girl should stir our hearts, even though the little match girl is fictional. We don’t even know her name. What we know is her suffering. 

Hans Christian Anderson, in just a few words, is able to portray the heavy weight of poverty, not just physical, material poverty, but the lack of kindness and compassion in a young child’s life. 

Our sense of justice is offended by the unfairness of it all.  No one should have to suffer the way the little match girl did. 

Someone should have had pity on her. 

Stirring up emotions for a fictional little girl is the beginning of empathy. It’s a short jump from feeling emotions towards a fictional character to feeling emotions for real people. They are actually the same emotions. 

Studies of brain imaging show the same areas of the brain are activated when responding emotionally to fiction as responding to live events.

Maybe we shouldn’t be afraid of telling stories to kids that will produce a real emotional response.

5 Best Picture Books to Teach Empathy to Kids

1. Little Blue Truck by Alice Schertle

Little Blue Truck is a friendly sort, but he really shines when the big dump truck gets stuck in the mud and he rallies his friends to help him out. 

2. Bear Feels Sick by Karma Wilson

Illness in a friend is a good time to flex those empathy muscles. Bear’s friends reach out to care for him when he’s sick. 

3. We’re All Wonders by R. J. Palacio

Auggie has a significant facial deformity, but the message of this book is that we’re all more alike than we are different. 

4. The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld

Taylor’s huge creation made of blocks is destroyed, making Taylor sad. Different animals stop in, each with their own approach to help, but Taylor appreciates it most when Rabbit just listens. 

5. Last Stop on Market Street by Matt de la Pena

CJ and his Grandma ride the bus home from church and he wonders why they don’t have a car, why he doesn’t have an iPod, why they get off in the dirty part of town. His grandmother helps him see the beauty and blessings of life. 

6 Best Chapter Books to Teach Empathy to Kids

1. El Deafo by Cece Bell

A graphic novel that tells how Cece, a hearing impaired girl, deals with devices that help and relationships that are complicated by her disability. 

2. The Hundred Dresses by Eleanor Estes

When Wanda is ridiculed by her classmates for wearing the same faded blue dress to school every day, she claims she has a hundred dresses at home. Her classmates learn too late the importance of kindness.

3. Wonder by R.J. Palacio

August Pullman was born with a facial deformity. Homeschooled till the fifth grade, Auggie is starting school for the first time. How can his mom, dad and sister help him navigate the social land mines of middle school? 

4. The War that Saved My Life by Kimberly Brubaker Bradley

In London during World War II, children were sent to the country to flee the air raids. But for ten year old Ada, who has a twisted foot and a cruel mother, joining her brother to leave home is a chance at a new life. 

5. A Single Shard by Linda Sue Park

Tree-ear is an orphan who becomes a potter’s apprentice in ancient Korea. He learns how to give and receive kindness. 

6. A Place to Hang the Moon by Kate Albus

William, Edmund and Anna are recently orphaned siblings who are evacuated from London during the war. Their commitment to each other and longing for a real family drives this heart warming story. 

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Since Hans Christian Andersen’s stories are now in the public domain, I’ve included the entire text of The Little Match Girl here. Find more of his stories online for free at Project Gutenberg.

THE LITTLE MATCH  GIRL

Most terribly cold it was; it snowed, and was nearly quite dark, and evening—the last evening of the year. In this cold and darkness there went along the street a poor little girl, bareheaded, and with naked feet. When she left home she had slippers on, it is true; but what was the good of that? They were very large slippers, which her mother had hitherto worn; so large were they; and the poor little thing lost them as she scuffled away across the street, because of two carriages that rolled by dreadfully fast.

One slipper was nowhere to be found; the other had been laid hold of by an urchin, and off he ran with it; he thought it would do capitally for a cradle when he some day or other should have children himself. So the little maiden walked on with her tiny naked feet, that were quite red and blue from cold. She carried a quantity of matches in an old apron, and she held a bundle of them in her hand. Nobody had bought anything of her the whole livelong day; no one had given her a single farthing.

She crept along trembling with cold and hunger—a very picture of sorrow, the poor little thing!

The flakes of snow covered her long fair hair, which fell in beautiful curls around her neck; but of that, of course, she never once now thought. From all the windows the candles were gleaming, and it smelt so deliciously of roast goose, for you know it was New Year’s Eve; yes, of that she thought.

In a corner formed by two houses, of which one advanced more than the other, she seated herself down and cowered together. Her little feet she had drawn close up to her, but she grew colder and colder, and to go home she did not venture, for she had not sold any matches and could not bring a farthing of money: from her father she would certainly get blows, and at home it was cold too, for above her she had only the roof, through which the wind whistled, even though the largest cracks were stopped up with straw and rags.

Her little hands were almost numbed with cold. Oh! a match might afford her a world of comfort, if she only dared take a single one out of the bundle, draw it against the wall, and warm her fingers by it. She drew one out. “Rischt!” how it blazed, how it burnt! It was a warm, bright flame, like a candle, as she held her hands over it: it was a wonderful light. It seemed really to the little maiden as though she were sitting before a large iron stove, with burnished brass feet and a brass ornament at top. The fire burned with such blessed influence; it warmed so delightfully. The little girl had already stretched out her feet to warm them too; but—the small flame went out, the stove vanished: she had only the remains of the burnt-out match in her hand.

She rubbed another against the wall: it burned brightly, and where the light fell on the wall, there the wall became transparent like a veil, so that she could see into the room. On the table was spread a snow-white tablecloth; upon it was a splendid porcelain service, and the roast goose was steaming famously with its stuffing of apple and dried plums. And what was still more capital to behold was, the goose hopped down from the dish, reeled about on the floor with knife and fork in its breast, till it came up to the poor little girl; when—the match went out and nothing but the thick, cold, damp wall was left behind. She lighted another match. Now there she was sitting under the most magnificent Christmas tree: it was still larger, and more decorated than the one which she had seen through the glass door in the rich merchant’s house.

Thousands of lights were burning on the green branches, and gaily-colored pictures, such as she had seen in the shop-windows, looked down upon her. The little maiden stretched out her hands towards them when—the match went out. The lights of the Christmas tree rose higher and higher, she saw them now as stars in heaven; one fell down and formed a long trail of fire.

“Someone is just dead!” said the little girl; for her old grandmother, the only person who had loved her, and who was now no more, had told her, that when a star falls, a soul ascends to God.

She drew another match against the wall: it was again light, and in the lustre there stood the old grandmother, so bright and radiant, so mild, and with such an expression of love.

“Grandmother!” cried the little one. “Oh, take me with you! You go away when the match burns out; you vanish like the warm stove, like the delicious roast goose, and like the magnificent Christmas tree!” And she rubbed the whole bundle of matches quickly against the wall, for she wanted to be quite sure of keeping her grandmother near her. And the matches gave such a brilliant light that it was brighter than at noon-day: never formerly had the grandmother been so beautiful and so tall. She took the little maiden, on her arm, and both flew in brightness and in joy so high, so very high, and then above was neither cold, nor hunger, nor anxiety—they were with God.

But in the corner, at the cold hour of dawn, sat the poor girl, with rosy cheeks and with a smiling mouth, leaning against the wall—frozen to death on the last evening of the old year. Stiff and stark sat the child there with her matches, of which one bundle had been burnt. “She wanted to warm herself,” people said. No one had the slightest suspicion of what beautiful things she had seen; no one even dreamed of the splendor in which, with her grandmother she had entered on the joys of a new year.

Want to Write a Bestseller? Understanding the Bestsellers Game

The bestseller game is surrounded by myths and misconceptions. Understanding how it actually works can help you be realistic about the goals for your book.

What is true about the bestseller game? The big lists don’t accurately reflect book sales, lists are made of books that sold a lot of copies in a short amount of time, authors need to do their own promotion, self published books can sell a lot of copies, not every best written book becomes a bestseller and stacks of books in a store don’t always indicate a best seller.

The NYT Bestseller List does not accurately reflect book sales

The most misunderstood aspect of bestseller lists is that they are not lists of books that actually sold the most copies. How can this be? One reason is that it’s hard to get accurate data of how many books actually sold.

Nielson BookScan, a independent company that tracks book sales, only is able to collect about 75-85% percent of all sales. They don’t track sales from stores like Wal-Mart and Sam’s Club and self published books. Some lists, like the Wall Street Journal list, are based on this information.

The New York Times bestseller list, on the other hand, is based on sales reports from hand picked retailers. What’s wrong with this picture? Obviously, your results will be skewed.

Tim Grahl, a book launch expert, explains it all in his article The Truth Behind Bestseller Lists

You need a lot of books in a short amount of time to hit the big lists

Timing of a book launch matters. In order to hit one of the big lists, you have to sell a large number of books in a short amount of time. How large is large? 5000 to 20,000. How short is short? One week to one month, depending on whether you’re shooting for a weekly list or monthly list. 

The thing about a book launch is that all the pre-orders for the book count on the release date of the book, so they all are counted in the same week. If pre-orders plus sales during the week of release are high enough, your book could hit a list. 

That’s one reason why pre-orders are so important. 

Another reason is that it tells publishers, distributors and retailers how much interest there is in a book before the release. The whole machine works better if there’s clues to how well the book will do. 

Authors will have to do their own promotion

A common myth believed by aspiring authors is that once they sign a contract with a publisher, the publisher will do all the book promotion for them. 

The reality is that the traditional publishers do little to promote emerging authors and are looking for authors who already have a following. 

Another reality is that name recognition matters. It doesn’t even matter why, as celebrity memoirs will attest.

One of the slower ways to build a name for yourself is to write. The bottom line is if you want to sell books, you have to become known. Somehow, you need to build a platform so that people can get to know you and your work. 

The good news is, that living authors are more connected to their readers than ever before. There are channels available today that make it possible for readers to connect with authors. 

The other sad truth is that readers will not automatically find the authors they want, the algorithms will push the acceptable books and the demands of life just doesn’t leave readers enough time to do the leg work to find the right books for them.  

Can a self-published book become a best seller?

Getting an agent and pitching your book to a traditional publisher used to be the only way to sell a lot of books. That’s not true today. Self publishing and independent publishers are changing the game. Take the case of Hal Elrod and The Miracle Morning. He’s sold two million copies of his self published book. Now there’s no doubt that he’s good at marketing, that he’s passionate about his message and he’s driven to get it out into the world. But, the point is that he did it without a publisher. 

There’s a way to see how well a book is selling if it’s listed on Amazon. Dave Chesson of Kindleprenuer has developed a sales calculator based on the Amazon’s best sellers rank.

If you write a best seller, it will become a best seller

First of all, best selling books are not the best written books, nor the best books at all. They’ve just sold a lot of copies in a short amount of time and hit a list. Getting on a list gets attention. That makes them well-known and gives them credibility so they sell more copies. 

Book sales are not based on the quality of your work. Sad, but true. 

Stacks of books in a store doesn’t equal sales or popularity

It’s easy to (wrongly) assume when you see large stacks of a title in a store that’s an indication that it’s popular or selling a lot of copies. That might be true. But, it might not. I know this from my own experience as a book seller. The truth is, book sellers can return big stacks of books that sat in their store but didn’t sell. 

Of course, someone ordered them to begin with because someone thought they would sell. But just because they disappear doesn’t mean they’ve been sold. 

Another lesson learned from inventory is that some types of books sell better than others. Avid fiction readers often don’t have the budget to keep up with their reading habits. Libraries fit the bill better for them than bookstores. 

Some books, like devotionals, non-fiction books that you want to study, write in and mark up and gift books actually sell multiple copies. Books used in classes or Bible studies sell in bulk. If you want to sell a lot of copies, write those books.

10 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Buy Bestsellers

Reading to Your Kids: Why, When and How Much?

Why is is important that parents read to their children?

Academic reasons

There are so many great academic reasons to read to kids.  

Studies show that reading to kids builds their vocabulary. One reason for this is that high quality picture books uses a richer and more varied vocabulary than conversation. So kids encounter words and concepts in books that they would not ordinarily hear. They also hear them in context and absorb the meanings of words without being taught them directly. 

A larger vocabulary is linked to academic success. In fact, most standard IQ tests, which were originally created to predict academic success, revolve around testing how much vocabulary a child knows. 

Reading to kids also helps them gain a greater understanding of how language works— correct grammar will sound right, even if they can’t articulate any grammatical rules. 

Finally, reading to kids, if it’s a positive experience teaches kids to love books, to love stories and to share stories with the people you love. 

Emotional reasons

I admit it. Footie pajamas and a damp, cuddly kid listening to a bedtime story ranks among my favorite pleasures in the world. 

I  had an epiphany a while back that maybe one reason why reading to children is such a bonding experience is that it recreates the intimacy of a mother nursing her baby. Lap sitting or an engrossed child pressed up against an adult reading a story is an emotionally close experience. 

It also communicate love and safety. 

It quiets a child who has been playing hard before nap or bedtime. 

It also creates shared memories between the generations. 

Spiritual reasons

Studies show that one of the best ways to teach empathy to children is to read to them. Relating to a character in a story helps them to feel compassion to someone less fornunate than themselves. 

Besides empathy, there’s other values and virtues that are taught through good books. 

It’s also a great way to teach your children the foundations of the faith that you want to pass on to them. 

Why is important for parents to read to their kids? There’s academic, emotional and spiritual benefits.

How much should parents read to their child? 

Ten minutes every other day

Sarah Mackenzie from the Read Aloud Revival says 10 minutes a day every other day adds up to 30 hours of reading in a year.

Ten minutes feels doable. Even on the busiest days, there’s usually a way to squeeze in 10 minutes of reading.

Even on the busiest days, it’s often possible to squeeze in 10 minutes for reading. 

And 30 hours a year is significant. You can get through a lot of books in 30 hours.  

As long as it enjoyable to parent and child

This is the time when the magic of the Venn Diagram comes into play. Remember the Venn Diagram? The key is in the overlap. Make the effort to find books that you enjoy and the ones that they enjoy.  As much as possible, ignore everything that doesn’t fit in that overlap. 

If you don’t look forward to reading to them, if it becomes a chore, then you’ll start avoiding it. Make it fun for you. Make it fun for them.

How much should parents read to their kids?

  1. Ten minutes every other day
  2. As long as it’s enjoyable for both parties

When should a parent start reading to their child?

It’s (almost) never too early and it’s (almost) never too late. 

You can definitely read to a baby in utero. The sound of mom and dad’s voice is important to the baby pre-birth. 

I’ve also heard that 4 months is a good age to start. 

But, it’s kind of like the best time to plant a tree. The best time is years ago. The second best time is right now. 

Life’s too short to spend time on regrets. Start where you are today and move forward. 

If I took a road trip with my adult children now, I wouldn’t hesitate to read to them. Of course, the magic ticket is finding something that everyone in the car likes. It’s worth putting in some time and effort to find that something. Do the work and bring along several options, so you can abandon the one that you thought was a winner, but really wasn’t. 

When is a good time to read to kids? 

Before nap time and before bed time are great times if that works with your schedule and energy level. 

In the car is a great option, if you’re not the driver or play an audio book if you are. 

When school work is done. When I was home schooling, read aloud time was the favorite time of the day for teacher and students. We saved it as a reward for finishing everything else. 

What are the obstacles of parents reading to their child?

Bored with repetition

What do you do when your child wants to read the same books over and over again and you’ve had it with those books? 

Don’t forget you’re taller than they are. You can hide those books in a high place. Ha. Of course, they will remember them and keep asking for them. That’s the time for distraction. You can do the research to introduce the new books that will capture their attention. 

This is another time when the magic of the Venn Diagram comes into play. The books that you enjoy and the ones that they enjoy.  As much as possible, ignore everything that doesn’t fit in that overlap. 

Too tired to read

When my grandkids started coming to Grandma’s for sleepovers, I looked forward to reading them bedtime stories. I underestimated how tired I would be at the end of the day. I was ready for bed before they were. Sometimes I pushed through and read anyway— just one book, but sometimes I gave up. 

Kids wear you out. It’s a real thing. 

What can you do? 

Make reading before nap time a ritual instead of before bedtime. 

Put on an audio story at bedtime.

Put the kids to bed earlier.

Keep working on your health— diet, exercise, rest— to have more energy. 

Eliminate lesser priorities from your schedule for now. Concentrate on the most important. This is important. 

Lack of information about good books and books that push agendas

I’ve written about the absence of content rating for books. See my post Why don’t books have ratings like movies? 

Unfortunately, there are children’s books with hidden agendas. It’s not always obvious going in which books they are and what the agenda is. 

You will have to do some homework if you are concerned about what your child is reading. It might be just finding trustworthy book lists, like the ones at Read Aloud Revival. Redeemed Reader book reviews is another good resource.  

How Busy Women Make Time to Read

If you’ve said to yourself, “I want to read more, but I just can’t find the time” this is post is for you. 

First of all, figure out which camp best describes your situation.

Do you feel guilty if you sit down to read before you finished your to do list? Are you just overwhelmed trying to juggle everything? Or do you struggle with decision fatigue and don’t know where to start?

Then take the steps to make more time for reading. 

If you feel guilty relaxing before your to do list is finished

  1. Put reading on your list. 
  2. Implement some hard stops. 
  3. Pair audio books with other tasks.

If you’re overwhelmed trying to juggle all the things

  1. Name What Matters.
  2. Plan your week
  3. Carry a book with you.

If Decision Fatigue is Paralyzing and You Don’t Know Where to Start

  1. Throw your phone in the ocean. 
  2. Decide about reading to escape or reading to learn. 
  3. Build an enticing book stack.

If You Feel Guilty for Relaxing Before Your To Do List is Finished 

Add Reading to your List

If it’s on your list of things to do, then you can check it off with a feeling of accomplishment and move on to something else.

Sarah Mackenzie from Read Aloud Revival recommends a 10 minute reading commitment.

This advice is based on a University of Sussex study that found six minutes of reading lowered heart rates and eased muscle tension.

Ten minutes doesn’t sound like much time, but, according to Sarah, 10 minutes every other day adds up to 40 hours per year. You can read or listen to a lot of books in 40 hours. 

Implement Some Hard Stops

Part of the problem of the to do list is that we never get to the end of it. 

Laundry and dishes, for example, are endless tasks that never stay done. 

Rosemarie Groner from The Busy Budgeter recommends one load of laundry a day, start to finish. No more ever. Having a hard stop relieves guilt. You know when you’re done for the day. You can relax in that knowledge. You can sit down without feeling guilty.

Pair Audio Book Listening with Exercising, Chores or Commuting

Coupling audio book listening with another low brain activity task is an easy way to redeem lost minutes.

I admit that implementing audio book listening has been a slow journey for me because I overwhelmingly prefer print. It took trying several genres to find one that could hold my attention in audio.

If You’re Overwhelmed Trying to Juggle All the Things

Name What Matters

         People around you have expectations. Some of them are legitimate, others are not. Everything feels important. 

The truth is, some things are more important than others. 

Take Kendra Adachi’s advice and Name What Matters. This is the heart of prioritizing.

Who and what are your top priorities? Which things will need to wait for another season of life or need to be weeded out completely?  

The genius of this advice is that you get to decide what matters to you. Your priorities don’t have to be the same as anyone else’s. 

She has a three steps process that I’ve found immensely helpful. 

First of all, you make a list of everything that could matter. All the possibilities. 

Next, you decide what does matter. 

Finally, choose what matters most. 

Name What Matters works for a given stretch of time. It also works for a topic. What matters most about reading? 

Is it time alone? New knowledge and understanding? Vicarious emotional release? Inspiration? 

Plan Your 168 Hour Week

Time management expert, Laura Vanderkam, talks about 168 hour weeks.

Look at a week at a time and give each hour a job to do, whether it’s exercise, sleep, rest, work or relationships.  

During a rest time block, actively avoid work and pursue activities that refresh you.  

Carry a Book, Ereader or Loaded Phone with You

Make it easy and convenient to pull out your book and read for a few minutes. If you load ebooks or audiobooks onto your phone, you’ll have easy access to them during down times like waiting in line or waiting for an appointment. 

If Decision Fatigue is Paralyzing and You Don’t Know Where to Start

First, Throw Your Phone in the Ocean”

This is Austin Kleon’s advice for how to read more. The idea, of course, is to stop scrolling, playing games on your phone and limit your texting.  Your phone can be a time suck that’s keeping you from worthy pursuits.

Life without your phone might not be possible. But you can fight the urge to waste time scrolling. Try Sarah Mackenzie’s tip— add wallpaper to your phone that says “Read instead”. 

Decide if you are reading to escape or reading to learn

Do you want to escape into fiction, learn from non-fiction or both? 

Reading to learn gives you dopamine hits every time an intriguing or exciting new fact hits your brain. Momentarily stepping into another reality by entering a story can reduce the anxiety you currently feel. Either one is a psychological boost that help you deal with the stresses of life. 

But acknowledging which one is most helpful to you makes the next step easier. 

Build an Enticing Book Stack

When you have a stack of books that you can’t wait to get to, time pockets will miraculously open up. 

Scheduling time for reading will become a non-issue. 

What do you want to learn? Which reality would you like to retreat to? Answering these questions will help you start to build your stack.

Looking for steps to build your book stack? Check out my post on the topic.

How to Write a Book Review for Amazon or Goodreads

Your Amazon or Goodreads book review provides an inestimable service for consumers. It’s even more crucial for authors.

Buyers want to know if the book is worth their money to purchase.

Readers want to know if it’s worth their time to read. Reviews help readers find books that are right for them.

People don’t want to waste their time or money. 

They also are trying to avoid a bad reading experience. They don’t want the plot spoiled, but they also don’t want unpleasant surprises that will ruin the book for them. 

To write a book review for Amazon or Goodreads, start by giving the book a 1 to 5 star rating. Then write your review leaving out spoilers and plot summary. Include your opinion, your emotional reaction, content warnings and the likelihood of recommending the book to friends. 

Assign the book a star rating

Amazon and Goodreads uses a 5 star rating scale, with 1 being the worst and 5 being the best. 

One and two star ratings are considered critical reviews and 3, 4 and 5 star ratings are considered positive reviews. 

One thing you can ask yourself when choosing a star rating is how likely you are to recommend the book to friends. If you’re very likely to recommend it, give it five stars. 

How fast did you finish the book? This could be a clue about how much you liked it. 

Unfortunately, there’s no provision for half stars, so if you’re on the fence you have to decide which way you’re leaning. 

Something that skews the results are the reviewers who give one star reviews because their book arrived damaged. This also applies to technical problem as well, if the ebook wouldn’t download or the print size was too small. 

Obviously, these are not problems that the author can influence. Yet, it hurts the overall rating score of the book. 

Personally, I feel the corollary to Anne Bogel’s statement “Life’s too short for bad books” is “Life’s too short for bad book reviews”.

I want to focus my time, effort and brain power on great books. Books that I didn’t like and don’t recommend aren’t worth the mental and emotional energy to review. 

Write your review: what to leave out

Spoilers 

You definitely don’t want to include any plot points that will sabotage the reading experience.

A general rule of thumb I’ve read repeatedly is not to mention anything that happens in the second half of the book. 

I’d go a step further. Don’t say anything that’s not included in the blurb written for promotional purposes. 

Plot summary, premise and setting 

These should be all be covered in the book description next to the book title, author and cover picture on the Amazon purchase page. 

You don’t need to include those in your review. 

Write your review: what to include

Your opinion 

This is what readers and buyers are looking for: your thoughts as an average, typical consumer. It’s not the place for the polished words of marketers and publicists. 

They want to know what you liked or didn’t like and why. 

Your emotional reaction

Did you race through to the end? Did it stick with you long after you finished? 

Did you identify emotionally with the story? 

How did it make you feel? 

Trigger warnings or content warnings

Remember, you’re trying to help other readers avoid a bad reading experience. 

Without giving away critical plot points, you want to alert people to potentially aversive content. You can write a review with a spoiler warning and hide the section of the review that people can skip if they’re avoiding spoilers. 

How you heard about the book

Sometimes it helps people to know how the book showed up on your radar. 

Likelihood that you will recommend the book to others

Let readers know if you’ll be spreading the word about this book. 

One effective way is to write a review on Amazon or Goodreads. Have fun!

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