I have a lot of angst over gift giving. A lot of stress, second guessing and feeling inadequate. It\u2019s easy to slide into negative thinking and believe \u201cI\u2019m just not good at gift giving.\u201d \n\n\n\nThe truth is it\u2019s a mixed bag. Sometimes I hit the nail on the head. Other times I\u2019ve been way off the mark. Sometimes I\u2019ve failed spectacularly. \n\n\n\nSo, how do I get out of this rut to score a better track record? \n\n\n\nMore importantly, how do you crush gift giving decision fatigue? By applying Kendra Adachi\u2019s Lazy Genius principles of Name What Matters and Decide Once. \n\n\n\nThe Problem with Decision Fatigue\n\n\n\nDecision fatigue is a modern phenomena that comes from the need to make thousands of decisions every day. There\u2019s the food decisions, the clothes decisions, what to do with free time, how to get the work done, who to talk to and what to talk about. The mental tax eventually wears us down and wears us out. \n\n\n\nIt\u2019s wonderful to have so many choices, but it can be overwhelming. \n\n\n\nWhen we hit the limit of how many decisions we can make in a day, we start to make bad decisions or we stop making decisions. When the need to keep making decisions outstrips our ability to do so, we have a breakdown or blow a fuse or shut down completely. \n\n\n\nThis is a problem. \n\n\n\nBut, there is a way to combat it.\n\n\n\nName What Matters\n\n\n\nDetermine your values. \n\n\n\nKendra Adachi calls it naming what matters. \n\n\n\nI\u2019m a new fan of Kendra Adachi\u2019s The Lazy Genius Way. Her principles are mind blowingly helpful. For my money, it\u2019s the most helpful book on life management since The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. \n\n\n\n(Note: This image is an Amazon affiliate link. Clicking through will benefit this site. )\n\n\n\nWhen you identify your top values \u2014 when you name what matters\u2014 other decisions become easier. \n\n\n\nHow does this apply to gift giving?\n\n\n\nWhat matters to you? \n\n\n\nFor example, are you trying to communicate love? Or is this an obligation? \n\n\n\nIs staying in budget important? Equality and fairness to other gift recipients? \n\n\n\nDo you want to give something practical or beautiful? Something with sentimental value or meaning? Or a minimalist gift that doesn\u2019t pile up stuff such as an experience, consumable or subscription? \n\n\n\nMaybe staying in budget and treating everyone fairly are your top values. Those values inform the other decisions. \n\n\n\nDecide Once\n\n\n\nHow do you beat gift giving decision fatigue? \n\n\n\nAfter you name what matters, decide once.\n\n\n\nDecide Once is another of the Lazy Genius principles. It means that you make a decision that you apply to all similar situations until it doesn\u2019t work any more. \n\n\n\nDevelop a go-to strategy that applies repeatedly. \n\n\n\nWhen you have a fall back, you can reduce the number of decisions that you are making. \n\n\n\nThis has multiple applications when it comes to the gift giving process\u2014 when to give, what to give, how to wrap, what to do about a card. \n\n\n\nHer advice borders on life saving. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nHow Decide Once Applies to Gift Giving\n\n\n\nStart with will you give a gift at all. \n\n\n\nThen decide what the gift will be and what you will do for wrapping and cards. \n\n\n\nHaving a go to reduces the number of decisions you make. \n\n\n\nDeciding once could mean that you always give art supplies to kids, or always a T shirt and pair of jeans, or always a book with cash. \n\n\n\nYou can choose to always use gift bags or brown paper or no wrapping, just a bow.\n\n\n\nWhen my kids were young, and they were invited to a friend\u2019s party, I would use one of their school pictures as a gift card. This solved the problem of buying a gift tag, it was personal, and their friends got to keep the picture. \n\n\n\nSometimes we develop a go to strategy naturally, but it helps to put it in a framework. \n\n\n\nKendra\u2019s Brilliant Example\n\n\n\n(Note: This image is an Amazon affiliate link. Clicking through will benefit this site. )\n\n\n\nFor example, Kendra Adachi gives Myquilynn Smith\u2019s book, The Cozy Minimalist, as a teacher\u2019s gift every year. I love this on so many levels. \n\n\n\nFirst of all, it\u2019s a book. \n\n\n\nI love giving books as gifts and recognize that it\u2019s not always easy. \n\n\n\nSecondly, it\u2019s a great gift! I saw a teacher comment about getting 15 mugs every year as a teacher gift. Wow. That\u2019s overwhelming. But practical, universal principles on home decorating is something every woman can use. \n\n\n\nOther Book and Occasion Pairings\n\n\n\nThis idea can be expanded to other occasions. Take weddings, for example. \n\n\n\nWe often give Love and Respect with a gift card as a wedding present. \n\n\n\nCookbooks make a great wedding present, like Joanna Gaines\u2019 Magnolia Table. Ree Drummond, The Pioneer Woman who has several good cookbooks. Or try a basic, all-inclusive one like The Better Homes and Gardens Cookbook.\n\n\n\nThere's a nice trend in our area to give a book at a baby shower in place of a card.\n\n\n\nThere\u2019s so many great books for babies. \n\n\n\nOne of my favorite kind of books for babies are Indestructibles. Unlike board books, they can\u2019t be ruined by being chewed. \n\n\n\nCheck out my list of my favorite books for babies. \n\n\n\nWhen we owned a bookstore, there was a customer who went to every baby shower at her large church always bought Sandra Boynton board books as gifts. It was her go to strategy. \n\n\n\nMy friend Marilyn gave a Bible to each of her seven grandchildren that she had read through- making notes, marking passages and praying for that child. What a treasure those kids have from their grandma. \n\n\n\nMy Favorite Books to Give\n\n\n\nSome people on your list are readers and some are not. \n\n\n\nSo books might not work for everyone on every occasion. No problem. \n\n\n\nBut, don\u2019t overlook the times when a book or a boxed set of books is the perfect gift.\n\n\n\nJesus Calling devotional by Sarah Young makes a nice gift. The large print has all the scripture verses written out so that you don\u2019t have to look them up. \n\n\n\nI'm a lifetime fan of C.S. Lewis' The Chronicles of Narnia. I think there's something there for every age from about 5 and up. The boxed set makes a nice family gift. \n\n\n\nThe Insanity of God by Nik Ripkin is a gift that we've been giving lately. It tells stories about the impact of the gospel on people\u2019s lives and the effects of persecution on believers. \n\n\n\nTurn the Ship Around! is a great book on leadership for the leaders in your life. \n\n\n\nHarold and the Purple Crayon is a great book for kids about the possibilities of imagination. \n\n\n\nLola Dutch is another whimsical heroine that brims with possibility. \n\n\n\nA Child\u2019s First Bible by Ken Taylor is one that we like to give to our grandkids.\n\n\n\nI\u2019ve given scores of books as gifts. Sometimes I missed the boat completely. Other times it\u2019s been near misses. Once in a while I knock it out of the park. Sure, I\u2019d like to improve my odds.\n\n\n\nBut Kendra Adachi's Lazy Genius Principles give me the encouragement I need to believe that, for me, giving books matters and it's worth it to keep swinging.