I started this post thinking I had found four books that painted a realistic picture of the poverty culture.
What I didn’t realize was how much they have in common.
They are all overcomer stories.
They are all about boys who grew up with single mothers.
They outline a path of what it takes to beat the odds.
They are also well-written.
These stories stand out because they are unusual. Most boys in similar circumstances are not able to break the poverty cycle in their lives.
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Hillbilly Elegy is masterfully written.
The only thing I didn’t like about this book was gratuitous language. Sometimes language in a dialogue can prove a point, but there’s no good reason for it to be in the narrative.
That being said, I love the social analysis wrapped around a boot-strapping overcomer’s story. J.D. Vance emerged from an impoverished childhood to graduate from Harvard and become a successful lawyer.
Ben Carson and his brother grew up in a single parent home in Detroit.
Ben credits his mother for the impact on his life that resulted in all of them breaking out of the poverty culture.
She valued education, discipline, the importance of reading and making wise decisions in the use of her resources.
In turn, Ben came to see poverty as a temporary state. He could see the way out. He developed a vision for his life. He eventually attained some of life’s greatest successes as a pediatric neurosurgeon.
An inspiring story, well told.
“The true story of an 11-year-old panhandler, a busy sales executive, and an unlikely meeting with destiny.” This is another book that makes me philosophical. The culture of poverty at work again. And, once again, it’s not so much about the money. It’s the opportunities, the education, even the relationships that are poor. And that plays out into material lack. The whole mindset has to change. The way you believe about yourself has to change. The way you believe about your destiny has to change: are you a victim of your circumstances or do you control your fate? Now that is a good question that I’ve been wrestling with a lot. Who’s in control of my life, me or God?
Laura Schroff reached out to Maurice in a gesture of friendship and began a relationship that endured three decades. She nurtured her unexpressed maternal instinct. He grabbed a lifeline out of a culture of poverty. It’s interesting that one thing he latched onto when he saw a healthy family in action was the idea of everyone sitting down at a dining room table to eat together, to talk and share life. That was missing in his home. It just goes to prove that building a culture—even a family culture— has to do with what you value and believe, not about money.
Everything was not idyllic in Laura and Maurice’s relationship for the next thirty years. This is real life and when is life always smooth sailing?
Note: Heads up for language.
I didn’t really understand apartheid until I read this book.
Seeing how it played out in people’s lives is sobering.
Trevor Noah has a white father and a black mother. In South Africa, it was illegal for his father and mother to procreate. His very existance was against the law, hence the title, Born a Crime.
It’s mind-blowing to think about the world and the life that Trevor Noah was born into. It’s a cautionary tale, especially for those who have a vote in their government’s laws and leaders.
I liked Noah’s personal and relatable writing style as well as the occasional political commentary.
Four boys growing up in poverty with single mothers. What did it take for them to break free?
Self-awareness? A caring adult? Purpose in life? A belief that things could be different?
I see four common factors.
- The involvement of a caring adult. In some cases it was their mother, sometimes it was someone else.
2. The importance of staying in school and finishing.
3. The belief that things could be different.
4. A vision for their lives.